You raise them and nurture them and help them grow into adults and then it’s time to let them leave. Some are eager to fly, standing on the edge of the nest dreaming of jumping off. Some need a little help to get going. A gentle nudge over the rim.
And then they fly.
You can congratulate yourself on a job well done.
Job done. Completed.
Wait a minute. If the job is completed, finished, then I must be……retired!
A few lucky people notice in advance that a change is coming. They are aware of the impending empty nest. For others this realisation comes as a shock.
You’ve spent decades raising the kids. Putting them first. Planning everything around them and their schedules and now what?
I’ve known people, women in particular, who feel their life is over if they don’t have a child to take care of. They want to carry on nurturing. Some put their life on hold, waiting (hoping) for grandchildren. A lot get a dog.
That’s one way to deal with the void that can hit you.
Another way to see the change of circumstance is as an opportunity.
Now is the time to live the live you want. To fulfil your dreams.
No worrying about babysitters…..or what the teenagers will get up to while we are out.
And no waiting until we retire from our other jobs. Time is short and precious. We need to make the most of it.
And just because they have flown away doesn’t mean they won’t flutter back every so often. Be grateful when they do.